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The Secret to Getting Over a Bad Day

So last week I got into an accident with my daughter in the car with me, and it was the scariest thing that has happened to me in quite some time. It was a total buzzkill to my happiness. I was down in the dumps after it happened. Just a terrible, no good, horrible day. All parties involved were unharmed, but the cars, not so much. My car looked like it was fine, but two thousand dollars later in repairs, and it really will be fine. (Thank God for insurance.) We won’t even talk about the car that was in front of me. Just no. What we will talk about though is the secret to getting over a bad day.
You see, bad days are going to happen. Sometimes the cause of a bad day is so minuscule, in retrospect you look back and think, “I was upset about that?” And then there are some days when big stuff happens, life changing stuff, that truly rocks you to your core, like when you find out about a close friend’s or family member’s battle with cancer or when you have a broken heart from grief. That’s heavy. But unfortunately, that’s life. Bad days and bad things happening are inevitable, but we can either dwell on the icky stuff or dwell on hope.  
Here’s the good news.

Even when the bad days seem to linger, especially when you’re going through a big thing like I mentioned above, there is still joy to be had in each day. How can that be? Well, we were made to thrive. We were made to persevere. We were made in His image. Because of that, we gather up every ounce of our will to keep going with a positive attitude even when the times are tough.

Our circumstances aren’t always a choice, but our attitude is. Happiness is a choice. You might think that it’s just not that easy. You’re right. It’s not. It’s a constant effort to choose joy, especially in adversity. But the secret to getting over a bad day (or a bad season) is yourself. We choose how we react to situations. We choose how we overcome the little things and the big things that are thrown our way. When we choose to dwell on God instead of our problems, things start to turn around. 

Here are some things that help me stay in that mindset.

1. BE BRAVE. 
I have to have courage to take the next steps in scary situations. I have to have courage to believe that everything is going to work out the way it should. It takes bravery to believe, but brave is something I can be.

2. BE BOLD. 
I have to be bold in everything I do, especially when things aren’t easy. When I feel anxious about a situation or frustrated, I have to ask myself, “Have I prayed about this as much as I should have?” And usually, the honest answer is no. I’m a big believer in prayer, and when my prayers are bold, so am I.

3. BE REFINED. 
I have to know that each situation I go through, no matter how small, is refining me to be the person God intended me to be. Each obstacle and each triumph is helping shape my faith and beliefs. Like a diamond in the rough, you know.

The next time you have a bad day or are going through a particularly tough season, just remember that you hold the secret to overcoming it. You can either choose to let your situation define you or refine you. It’s your choice. You’re allowed to have a bad day. You’re just not allowed to stay there. The sun is always waiting.


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Comments

  1. love this! so beautifully stated!! I tend to forget the refining process. I am not usually a fan of it so I don’t pay much attention but it is oh so important!! I am so glad you and the princess are okay!

    • Thanks so much, my dear! I think we all forget. ;) And I am so glad it’s over with. Now I just have the red tape to get through and we’ll be a-ok. Xoxo

  2. That accident sounds terrifying! Thankfully you & your family were safe. I love your perspective on overcoming bad situations. You’re right, we rarely pray about situations as much as we should. It’s all part of the refining process that deepens our faith, but it’s certainly not easy!

    • It was pretty scary. Thanks so much for your kind words. I find that when I’m in a really bad spot, I just need to shake up my perspective. It’s definitely not easy, but it’s always a process I’m grateful for afterward. :)

  3. What a perfect post! It is so tough when bad days roll around, but your positive spin on a bad day is perfect and very well said.

    • Thanks so much, Amanda! Life is just tough sometimes, you know? But that doesn’t mean we have to live in unhappiness. Quite the contrary. I choose happiness. It’s hard sometimes, but always worth it. :)

  4. love this! so beautifully stated!! I tend to forget the refining process. I am not usually a fan of it so I don't pay much attention but it is oh so important!! I am so glad you and the princess are okay!

  5. That accident sounds terrifying! Thankfully you & your family were safe. I love your perspective on overcoming bad situations. You're right, we rarely pray about situations as much as we should. It's all part of the refining process that deepens our faith, but it's certainly not easy!

  7. What a perfect post! It is so tough when bad days roll around, but your positive spin on a bad day is perfect and very well said.

  9. “But the secret to getting over a bad day (or a bad season) is yourself.
    We choose how we react to situations. We choose how we overcome the
    little things and the big things that are thrown our way. When we choose
    to dwell on God instead of our problems, things start to turn around.” Amen sister. Sometimes a challenge, but always a good way to go. Thanks for the reminder.

    • Always a challenge, but always so much easier to deal with the punches when you lean on Him! :) Thanks so much for you kind comment. Hope you’re having a great day, Chelsea!

  10. Very well said. I often tell my children that only they can determine their attitude. It can be hard, but if we really want to we can pull ourselves out of a funk. Thanks for the encouragement.

    • Thanks for your kind words, Jennifer! It can be so hard, but like my mom always says, “you just gotta to do what you gotta do.” ;) Have a great week!

  11. I’m so sorry to hear about your accident Kristy but am I ever relieved that you and Charlotte are okay.

    You’re advice is perfect. I find God is the best remedy for a bad day. He can turn the bad to beautiful in the blink of an eye. The more glory and praise we give Him, the happier we become.

    Thanks for sharing and for linking up to the #SHINEbloghop.

    Wishing you a lovely day.
    xoxo

    • Thanks, Jennifer! Yep, it was scary, but nothing serious, thank God! Yep, He’s always the answer for me. You are so right about the more we praise Him, the happier we’ll be. Amen to that! Have a great one!

  12. "But the secret to getting over a bad day (or a bad season) is yourself.
    We choose how we react to situations. We choose how we overcome the
    little things and the big things that are thrown our way. When we choose
    to dwell on God instead of our problems, things start to turn around." Amen sister. Sometimes a challenge, but always a good way to go. Thanks for the reminder.

  13. Very well said. I often tell my children that only they can determine their attitude. It can be hard, but if we really want to we can pull ourselves out of a funk. Thanks for the encouragement.

  14. I'm so sorry to hear about your accident Kristy but am I ever relieved that you and Charlotte are okay.

    You're advice is perfect. I find God is the best remedy for a bad day. He can turn the bad to beautiful in the blink of an eye. The more glory and praise we give Him, the happier we become.

    Thanks for sharing and for linking up to the #SHINEbloghop.

    Wishing you a lovely day.
    xoxo

  15. Thanks so much, my dear! I think we all forget. ;) And I am so glad it's over with. Now I just have the red tape to get through and we'll be a-ok. Xoxo

  16. It was pretty scary. Thanks so much for your kind words. I find that when I'm in a really bad spot, I just need to shake up my perspective. It's definitely not easy, but it's always a process I'm grateful for afterward. :)

  17. Thanks so much, Amanda! Life is just tough sometimes, you know? But that doesn't mean we have to live in unhappiness. Quite the contrary. I choose happiness. It's hard sometimes, but always worth it. :)

  19. Always a challenge, but always so much easier to deal with the punches when you lean on Him! :) Thanks so much for you kind comment. Hope you're having a great day, Chelsea!

  20. Thanks for your kind words, Jennifer! It can be so hard, but like my mom always says, "you just gotta to do what you gotta do." ;) Have a great week!

  21. Thanks, Jennifer! Yep, it was scary, but nothing serious, thank God! Yep, He's always the answer for me. You are so right about the more we praise Him, the happier we'll be. Amen to that! Have a great one!

  22. Nice advice. I look back on rough experiences and even though they were hard, I know that they have changed me for the better.
    Some days I find tiny things irritating me, putting me in a bad mood. Those are the days where I know I just have to reshape my attitude.

    • Sometimes it’s the hardest thing to do, to shift our attitude, but it’s always worth it. And it always makes me feel better. :) Thanks for reading, Julie!

  23. Nice advice. I look back on rough experiences and even though they were hard, I know that they have changed me for the better.
    Some days I find tiny things irritating me, putting me in a bad mood. Those are the days where I know I just have to reshape my attitude.

  24. Great post Kristy!!! Such a great reminder that our life is what we make it. it is up to us to make the best of a bad situation or a bad day. Thanks for the reminder girl!! Xo

    • Thank you, Alycia! It’s hard to sometimes own a situation and just deal with it. So hard. But when you just take the bulls by the horn as they say, things really start to turn around. ;) Hope you have a great week, my friend!

  25. Great post Kristy!!! Such a great reminder that our life is what we make it. it is up to us to make the best of a bad situation or a bad day. Thanks for the reminder girl!! Xo

  26. Sometimes it's the hardest thing to do, to shift our attitude, but it's always worth it. And it always makes me feel better. :) Thanks for reading, Julie!

  27. Thank you, Alycia! It's hard to sometimes own a situation and just deal with it. So hard. But when you just take the bulls by the horn as they say, things really start to turn around. ;) Hope you have a great week, my friend!

  28. I am not very religious– more so spiritual? If that is a thing… I believe in the power of prayer and meditation. When I’m anxious, I take deep breaths, try to clear my mind and say some prayers. It definitely helps.

    • Absolutely makes tons of sense, Monica! :) Being in tune with yourself is key. Knowing how to calm your spirit is always a huge help. Hope you’re having a great week!

  29. Good encouragement. So hopeful to remember that God is using every situation to refine us for His purposes. We definitely all have bad moments and even days, but you’re right – we don’t have to stay there.

    • Thanks, Abi! I truly believe that each moment is just a step to the next and a refining tool for sure. Hope you’re having a great day!

  30. I am not very religious– more so spiritual? If that is a thing… I believe in the power of prayer and meditation. When I'm anxious, I take deep breaths, try to clear my mind and say some prayers. It definitely helps.

    • Thanks, Lisa! It really is. Sometimes my attitude is just not where it should be, but then I remind myself to give myself some grace and things always are easier to get through. :)

  32. Good encouragement. So hopeful to remember that God is using every situation to refine us for His purposes. We definitely all have bad moments and even days, but you're right – we don't have to stay there.

  34. Absolutely makes tons of sense, Monica! :) Being in tune with yourself is key. Knowing how to calm your spirit is always a huge help. Hope you're having a great week!

  35. Thanks, Abi! I truly believe that each moment is just a step to the next and a refining tool for sure. Hope you're having a great day!

  36. Thanks, Lisa! It really is. Sometimes my attitude is just not where it should be, but then I remind myself to give myself some grace and things always are easier to get through. :)

    • Jess, thank you so much for sharing! I’m so sorry I didn’t see this comment until now. I definitely thing #3 is the hardest, but it’s also the best. Hope you are having a great week!

  38. #3 really speaks to be. Our biggest struggle was/is having infertility. And with each and every struggle, my husband and I try to use them to grow in our relationship with each other and with God. It's definitely not easy! Thanks for some wonderful inspiration! I'm pinning this to our Tuesday Talk Pinterest features board! -Jess
    http://www.sweetlittleonesblog.com

  39. Jess, thank you so much for sharing! I'm so sorry I didn't see this comment until now. I definitely thing #3 is the hardest, but it's also the best. Hope you are having a great week!

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